What a shitty thing to say...

I was only about 10 minutes into an event I was hosting and I heard: 
“Your mom must be so embarrassed that she brought her friend to see how mediocre you are.”

Truth be told, from the moment the first guest arrived I felt nervous and when an extra 5 unexpected guests arrived after I began, I got really rattled.

Do you know who said the nasty comment about my mom being embarrassed?

Me - It was inside MY own head 🙄

Why am I telling you this when I'm a mindset coach?

Why am I telling you this vulnerable thought that ran through my head?

I'm sharing this because I want you to know it's completely normal.
Even though mindset work, beliefs, and helping my clients increase their confidence and courage is what I specialize in, it doesn't mean that I don’t have shitty thoughts of my own. In fact, it is why I am so passionate about helping others who have the same. 

We all do on some level and the difference is knowing how to deal with it.

So how did I deal with it?
I listened and I said, “Um, okay, that's pretty harsh!”

And THEN I asked:
“While that could be true, what else could be true?”

Other Possible Truths:

My mom's friend could be sitting there thinking, “Wow! Heather had five extra people show up - She's really in demand”
She could be thinking “Wow! I’m lucky that I get to be a part of this.”
And she could have been thinking about her day, how tired she was, or about nothing at all.

People could have also noticed how rattled I was and thought how brave I was for continuing on. They could have been thinking they are grateful to have this space where vulnerability and real is welcome.

I was disconnected from what I intended to provide for my group.
I wasn't centered. I wasn't grounded, and I wasn't keeping my intention.

I let myself and my ego become my focus. From those truths, I had a choice to make.
To let that voice get the best of me or to shift.

I brought myself back and looked at every single attendee, and thought, I'm here to serve them - breathe and be a space for them to facilitate their own healing. However, that is going to happen for them.”

So looking for the other truths in the situation allowed me to pull myself back together, carry on and facilitate a fantastic event.

So I transparently share to let you know you're not alone. Even the top performers that I work with share that their dark inner voices try to keep them quiet, small, and feeling like they aren’t good enough.

Together we not only quiet that voice, but we also turn it into a superpower.

If you have a really nasty inner critic, like mine, this was to share a really simple way for you to help reduce its impact so you can see yourself for how amazing and brave you truly are...

If you would like to experience an even deeper, more rapid transformation to increase your confidence, your courage, and your ability to see how much more is possible, let’s connect and see what it could be like to work together.

4 Ways To Put An End To Procrastination

4 Ways to Put and end to your Procrastination  

We’ve all done it at some time or other. I’m totally guilty of putting off exercise until “tomorrow”; some continually delay finishing that project or starting that business (this one may have served me actually, lol).

Anyway, procrastination is often a huge cause of self-judgments and can literally stop you in your tracks from achieving all that you desire.  Ironically, it is often caused to protect you (if that doesn’t make sense, contact me - we need to talk!)

Here are 4 strategies we can play with to see if you can tame the beast.

Do it now

Hold your breath and jump right in! Putting things off until the last minute is a bad habit and like all habits is ingrained in our subconscious mind and hard to break. It feels like the normal thing to do and we simply continue along our path. To complete a task immediately may even feel strange or like a forced action. Keep practicing - it could become your norm. And even if not, at least things will likely get a lot better.

Take baby steps

Sometimes we procrastinate because the task may be intimidating to us. Perhaps we have no possible inkling on where to start. In these cases, it is quite fine to take it one tiny little step at a time and even to ask someone to hold your hand while you take those steps. Say you are preparing a business plan and for the 5th time this week, you’ve turned on the PC and looked at the blank screen. Or you’ve just remembered you need to do some more research before you begin…you’re still not ready. It is probably a bigger project than how you have been breaking it down.  Try to break down the project into even smaller pieces and tackle each bit separately. Make each task an individual project and after completion of each one, celebrate and acknowledge your achievement.

Forget it

Why force the issue? If you have been ‘dragging your feet on something for a very long time, it may all be for the best. Maybe something somewhere is trying to tell you something. That something is your intuition and it is usually right! Think about something that you have been putting off again and again and again. What are the reasons that you need to complete this task in the first place? Does someone want you to do this? What is THEIR agenda? What are YOUR reasons for this lengthy delay? I find it amazing that 99% of the time I put off doing something, I am thankful that I did!  Disregarding a project after a long period of procrastination is however usually a last resort.  I suggest deeper questioning before opting for this since it may also be the subconscious trying to keep you away from growth.

Support team

Do you put off tasks because you feel that they are too big and complex for you to handle alone? Or because you need assistance? Be honest with yourself. “No man is an island”. Ask for help! There are many resources out there that can provide you with all you need to carry out your job. If you’re a solo-professional and you put off answering emails, then don’t answer them yourself. Hire an assistant, find some college students that want experience, get a family member to help. Procrastinating on life changing activities could be as a result of fear of the unknown. Get a mastermind group together, find a mentor, join a support group. You don’t have to do it all by yourself. Just ensure that to kick this habit; you do what feels good to you in whatever method you choose. You’ll surely postpone procrastination for a very long time.

6 Powerful Questions

For Pursuing Your Dreams? (or new year’s goals)

What's your dream?

Want to give your vision a jumpstart?

Write down your goals and use these questions to speed up the delivery of your dream.

1. What's your highest priority in this lifetime?

What's most important for you to experience, explore or embrace this time around?

Until you answer this question, your life goals might not be aligned with your current actions and circumstances. Unaligned with your inner passion, your intentions will lack the power to attract the people and situations necessary to become a reality.

Get clued in to your true joy.

What activities did you enjoy as a child?

What are your hobbies now?

When your goals are aligned with your soul, synchronicity kicks in to guide you to your target. 

2. Is this your dream, or someone else's?

Are your goals your own choice, or what others think you should strive for?

Are you in a job that you studied for because others steered you in that direction?

Do you want to look back in your old age and wish you had followed your passion?

Will you regret having "played it safe?"

I’ve had clients ask “Is it selfish to go after my own dream?”

HECK NO! You can’t pour from an empty cup and what joy can you give to others if you haven't found it for yourself first?

3. Are you settling for less than?

Are you resigned to accepting less than your full share of love, health, and success this lifetime?

Have you compromised and sacrificed your dream for the sake of others or because it seemed to hard?

Reality check: Anything short of living your true passions will never make you happy. Do you really want to risk living the rest of your life unfulfilled?

4. What will you feel like when you reach your dream?

Personal passion fuels a vision.

Dive into the thrill and exhilaration of the feeling of living your dream. 

The Hawaiian Kahuna say, "Where your creative attention flows, so flows your life."

Practicing this is a HUGE factor in achieving your dream. It is a part manifestation and a part action-taking inspiration.

Tap into the future version of yourself and imagine what it will feel like when you reach your goal or dream. What feelings will you be experiencing? Do this as often as possible and supercharge your ability to transform your dream to reality.

5. What steps can you take today toward your dream?

Don't defer your dream. Set up supports and systems around you to instantly translate your intentions into action. Jump on every opportunity that is in line with your purpose and vision.

Are there smaller projects that lead to your larger dream? If the dream is to run a marathon, train for a local fun-run first. And find a way to measure your progress. Track those little wins-by writing in a journal or telling a friend.

6. Are you telling yourself: "I can't have my dream?"

Most people don't believe they can live their dream.

Either their conditioned belief system (aka subconscious mind) has them believing and staying on par with “someone can't make a living doing what they love”, or “I don't deserve my dream.” “Who am I to want so much.”

To avoid the pain of feeling they can't have their dream, people often keep their dream so buried they can't remember they ever had a dream.

I haven’t met a person who hasn’t had a dream for themselves at some point in their life.

BUT I’ve met a lot who aren’t pursuing it which is very sad.

I believe in a world where everyone deserves to experience their dreams.

Are you going for yours? 

If not, when would NOW be a good time to start? 

What kind of support will help you get started?