I was only about 10 minutes into an event I was hosting and I heard:
“Your mom must be so embarrassed that she brought her friend to see how mediocre you are.”
Truth be told, from the moment the first guest arrived I felt nervous and when an extra 5 unexpected guests arrived after I began, I got really rattled.
Do you know who said the nasty comment about my mom being embarrassed?
Me - It was inside MY own head 🙄
Why am I telling you this when I'm a mindset coach?
Why am I telling you this vulnerable thought that ran through my head?
I'm sharing this because I want you to know it's completely normal.
Even though mindset work, beliefs, and helping my clients increase their confidence and courage is what I specialize in, it doesn't mean that I don’t have shitty thoughts of my own. In fact, it is why I am so passionate about helping others who have the same.
We all do on some level and the difference is knowing how to deal with it.
So how did I deal with it?
I listened and I said, “Um, okay, that's pretty harsh!”
And THEN I asked:
“While that could be true, what else could be true?”
Other Possible Truths:
My mom's friend could be sitting there thinking, “Wow! Heather had five extra people show up - She's really in demand”
She could be thinking “Wow! I’m lucky that I get to be a part of this.”
And she could have been thinking about her day, how tired she was, or about nothing at all.
People could have also noticed how rattled I was and thought how brave I was for continuing on. They could have been thinking they are grateful to have this space where vulnerability and real is welcome.
I was disconnected from what I intended to provide for my group.
I wasn't centered. I wasn't grounded, and I wasn't keeping my intention.
I let myself and my ego become my focus. From those truths, I had a choice to make.
To let that voice get the best of me or to shift.
I brought myself back and looked at every single attendee, and thought, I'm here to serve them - breathe and be a space for them to facilitate their own healing. However, that is going to happen for them.”
So looking for the other truths in the situation allowed me to pull myself back together, carry on and facilitate a fantastic event.
So I transparently share to let you know you're not alone. Even the top performers that I work with share that their dark inner voices try to keep them quiet, small, and feeling like they aren’t good enough.
Together we not only quiet that voice, but we also turn it into a superpower.
If you have a really nasty inner critic, like mine, this was to share a really simple way for you to help reduce its impact so you can see yourself for how amazing and brave you truly are...
If you would like to experience an even deeper, more rapid transformation to increase your confidence, your courage, and your ability to see how much more is possible, let’s connect and see what it could be like to work together.