I just had an awesome Parts Therapy Session. Parts Therapy (aka Voice Dialog) is a process where we speak to different aspects of yourself (ie. The critic, the lazy part, the overeating part, the part that pushes you to achieve). In the process, we learn its purpose, how it serves you and how it can refine its role to work better than it has in the past.
It may sound weird and it is in all the right ways - it's fun, it provides amazing insights, and awareness AND it can also create some of the most rapid transformations and shifts you can experience.
I was trading with another practitioner so I provided a session for her first. We have been addressing her desire to increase her interest in sex with belief clearing and parts work.
During this process, we invited her "Resistant" part to speak with me. It wasn't sure what it was trying to do with her, why it made her resistant to sex except for fear of pregnancy, but it realized that hadn't been a risk for quite a few years now. It actually said wanted to be destroyed and then decided it would just change roles.
What was surprising was that the new role that came up was a military officer. When I asked what it represented it said it was the "Director". It was going to take charge. To myself, I wondered if the energy was that of a dominatrix 💋 So I'll be waiting for an update of what shifts for her.
And then I received my session. We addressed the part of me who wants to fix it everything and help others not feel the pain of their mistakes. The part referred to itself as, "I'm the only one who can fix it."
We figured this part was created when I was very young. It only knew to be nice, be kind, be considerate, don't hurt others. Its memories were of me as a child.
It hadn't grown up from that point to learn what boundaries are and it didn't understand that even if someone hurts me and is sorry, it is okay for me to walk away and leave them to deal with their own hurt, remorse or whatever they need to deal with. It felt it/I had to stay no matter what to stop others from feeling pain from their mistakes.
This part heard people talking about co-dependency and heard that I may now suffer from it. It knew its influence may have caused it but it was confused. Co-dependency was too grown-up a concept for it to understand what to do about it.
Later, this part identified itself as 6 years old. Which makes perfect sense. That far back, parents were teaching their kids to be kind, have good manners and be polite. Only recently is it also being considered how kids comfort and boundaries need to be respected too. Ie. When a child doesn't want to give someone a hug or kiss goodbye and they are told they are mean, rude or hurting that persons feelings. Often kids are pushed to go give the hug or kiss anyway.
Through the process my part wanted to be kind and help people but now it sees how it was hurting me. So it wants to learn how to have all of those positive qualities, while also helping me to hold my boundaries and not feel guilty to do what I need to do when something isn't good for me, even if that means someone may end up sad.
What was interesting is that It had no idea how to do that so it thought a good idea would be to go observe other parts. Ones who may be more evolved in these matters. It also thought it should read books about boundaries and co-dependency (kids versions, of course).
I am always excited to see what change occurs from these sessions. One session, from that past, was talking to my Logical Mind Part to help understand why I feel so rushed to get to the end of everything -why I rushed through things.
It turned out my logical mind was so chill, calm and composed that just getting to meet it and hear its perspective changed the way I speak. Seriously..
In the past, I was often told to slow down, that I spoke too fast or rush too much, and the progress I have made is astounding. Now more often than not, I am complimented for the pace I keep during sessions and meditations.
If this sounds as fascinating to you as it is to me, let's set up a session.