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CAN YOU STOP THEM FROM F’ING THINGS UP?

I have a had sessions with some highly aware clients recently.  At times, even the most evolved individuals can get stuck in modes that don’t serve them. So it is really fun to work with individuals who are ready to question everything, even what they know to be fact.  

While checking in with one of them this week, going over their goals for our session, they said they wanted to release the negative energy other people were sending them.

It took me back for a moment because this is not the usual disposition of my clients - it felt disempowered. I felt the vulnerability and pain from her feelings of lack of control. It can be difficult to witness this since I grow so attached and protective of my clients.

Sometimes as a coach you take risks asking tough questions - Ones that you know, if your client is in the wrong headspace and you have not established strong rapport, you could lose them.  But the risk is usually where you uncover all of the gain.

So, I warned her, I have a question for you, “I am not saying you are wrong about people sending negativity your way, but I am asking what if they are not?

Then I went further and asked, “What if it is actually you?”

In this moment, I could tell the question wasn’t sitting comfortably.  It was essentially discrediting my client’s feelings and possibly accusing her of making things up to blame someone else.  So quickly, I explained I am not saying you are wrong.  And assuming you are 100% accurate, what would change for you IF you found out you were wrong, and no one was sending anything?”

In THAT moment, the breath that occurred was so big, so much was let go, I could feel the release. 

 

After a few minutes of her sharing, we established nothing changed as far as if she felt people were sending negative energy but what did change was her feeling of empowerment and control.  

We talked about what to do to stop other people’s energy or intention from invading hers, we purged and purified existing negative energies, we created a plan to shield and protect and worked through some nurture and healing methods to help fortify her energy to protect from future attack.  Ending it all with some soft Reiki healing helped Validate everything she was experiencing and offered her a few moments for peace, comfort and safety.

 

Is there anywhere you are blaming someone or something else for your current circumstances?

I did this for a while, and I will share about that in my next post.  Until then, question everything! ♡