Do you ever notice a positive change in yourself and feel proud?
It is a rare occasion that I give myself credit for an accomplishment. Usually, once I have accomplished something, I’ve already set the bar higher and am judging myself for not being there yet.
Isn’t it a shame how hard we can be on ourselves?
This is such a big focus of the work that I do with my clients and myself. Often it is our own self-judgments holding us back more than the external challenges like money, family, time, resources, etc.
Well, in the last few weeks as I was deciding if I was going to take the plunge and move to a larger location and expand my in-person offering, I started reflecting on all that I have learned over the years about business, virtual and brick-and-mortar.
And you know what a rabbit hole deep thinking can become. I started thinking about so much. My thoughts landed back on my dad again since September is his birthday month and he was such a big cheerleader for all of my business adventures. The rabbit hole led to me thinking of traits of his that I have always known I have and how there are certain ones that I am choosing to practice and adopt as mine as well.
He was a very generous person. But I didn’t know until after he passed how incredibly generous he was! He actually hid it from people.
I heard story after story of the ways he helped people and the donations he made - like for one he used to buy drumsets for kids whose parents could afford them. He thought the world needed more drummers. Smile Train was another organization that he gave a lot to.
He was how I learned you could pick a charity on Amazon for a portion of your purchases to be donated to.
So in the spirit of giving, if this appeals to you at all, please apply. I want to support those who are really interested in their own growth, who care about how they feel, and who want more good stuff, whether it's goals, happiness, or stronger relationships.
During the call, I’m going to be asking a few questions. They may seem like simple ones, but they uncover some of the most surprising gems of information its like watching some speedy genius who can finish a Rubix cube in seconds. I LOVE IT!
If you are curious, Apply Here I'll be letting the 10 who are selected know on Saturday, Sept 17th.
Talk about Guilt
My dad’s birthday has me doing a lot of reflecting. It has been twenty months since he passed. Typing that feels unreal - like, the time has stood still and flown by at the same time.
It has only been the last few months that my feelings of guilt and remorse began to soften.
It was really rough. I could hardly give myself a break for being human. I was a bit preoccupied with my own challenges to really know what he was going through and no one else was telling me either.
I was facing some heavy stuff in my life, unfortunately, while he was facing a lot in his life so I wasn’t fully present and I didn’t know or maybe I didn’t let it register.
And for that, I've had a hard time forgiving myself.
I don’t think all of those feelings will ever totally go away, but I am so grateful they have softened because we all know, I can’t change the past and my guilt or remorse wasn’t helping anything.
Part of what helped my self-criticism was my inner work - you know that’s my favorite stuff in the world.
The other part is because I decided to allow the “I wish I would have’s” to fuel something good instead of keeping me feeling bad.
While I can’t change the past, I can put that energy into doing better and helping other people’s lives get better too.
So in a sense, it feels like I am honoring my dad by helping others because he thought what I do is the coolest thing ever.
We're all dealing with so much stuff, but what if we could let go of this stuff so that we could be present now and not be making up for it later?
There are many situations in life that we realize we wish we would have done something differently and sorting out our own stuff allows us the space to be there for others too.
If you feel like that’s something you could look at, might be able to help.
Immense Gratitude
As I am setting up my new center - Heart Space Center, I'm feeling so much gratitude for my dad and how much he encouraged me ALL THE TIME in my business dreams.
He was always my biggest cheerleader when it came to my businesses and any idea I had. Not just cheering me on but getting hands-on to help me make it come to life. I’ve been so lucky to have such support.
Once I started providing coaching in my business, he thought it was so amazing and would ask "How great it felt to be able to help people the way you do? It must be the BEST feeling!"
I know for me it has been amazing having someone that encouraged me, believed in me and ANYthing I wanted to do.
It helped me take the bigger leaps that I needed to take to reach my goals. I might not have done it otherwise and my dreams would have been just that, dreams.
Now, I get to live them!
I’m not sure everyone has that and not only that but you may feel like the things you want are out of your control or just beyond your grasp.
There are so many challenges that we can face throughout our life. Maybe you have one right now. What is going on for you? What have you been trying to break through? What dream are you wishing could become reality?
The 10th of September would be my dad’s birthday and I want to celebrate him.
That is why I am selecting 10 people to offer this gift of the Clarity and Action Session. It’s my tribute to him and my gift to 10 lucky people.
I want to be that for you so you're able to feel that feeling of support and increase your willingness to step outside of your comfort zone so you can actually reach that goal, and achieve the dream that has felt too far away.
If you are ready for support because you are wanting to stretch beyond your current circumstances and you’ve only been trying it alone, I’m here.